Friday, 6 November 2015

GIVING A DAUGHTER AWAY

       A queer experience  it is  , a feeling that defies description ,an emotion beyond expression .
        Thoughts of varied  colours blended together in a peculiar mode ,overwhelming you  with a mood never known before .
                                You don't  know what to name it !
     Is it a sense of  self  satisfaction at having performed a parental duty gracefully in accordance with  the           established customs ?
          A  sense of relief that your beloved daughter  is going to enter a new phase of life  that holds the promises of a rosy future  with fulfilment of all her happy dreams?
        Or is it a late realization that you entrusted the future of your loving daughter to the mercy of a stranger ?
            Regret that you consented to give her away rather early  , while it could be done a little later ?
         Apprehensions  ,will or won't she be granted the same love and care she has been brought up with  ,and  if she  will be ensured protection as was done right from birth upto her  present age  ?
  Or is it the fear of impending loneliness back at home caused by the glaring
   absence of a darling child  ?
The chain of unsavoury thoughts keeps confusing the mind ,making it difficult  to
know  which of them is the hardest to cope with .
             But then ,as it always happens ,Prudence gets the better of  emotions  and rhyme and reason begin to prevail  ,asserting the truth that we are  merely a link in the  ages old tradition and are bound to act as our predecessors have been doing since time immemorial .
          Hence  ,no matter how painful the parting , how deep the sense of loss ,how dreadful the worries about her future ,the fact remains that she is born a daughter ,an asset that belongs to others and therefore must be parted with , a loving farewell
is all  we can give her with gifts of blessings and good wishes in abundance for her happy going in the new household. Tears may be welling up in the eyes but must not roll down till she is believed to have entered there to a cordial welcome ,marking  the beginning of celebrations henceforth , extending  to  the whole of her  lifetime !

8 comments:

  1. A gift to all mothers and daughters .

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  2. A gift to all mothers and daughters .

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  3. Yes very true, but no one pointed out the plight of a father. However the article rightly brought the emotions and feeling.

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  4. Yes very true, but no one pointed out the plight of a father. However the article rightly brought the emotions and feeling.

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    1. Thanks dear Kailash for posting your reaction ,but you seem to have missed the word ' parents ' that obviously means both the mother and the father ,
      right ? In case you are not convinced ,I will try my next piece exclusively on a
      father's emotions that largely go unexpressed .

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  5. yes it reminds how my parents have gone throuh this type of emotional parting at the prescribed and predetermined hour of marriage.It is so nice to feel the parental support given even later unconditionally till they are alive..The feelings of parents have been penned down very convincingly

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